Similarly, David thinks that "taking time, instead of rushing headlong into something" has benefitted his marriage to an extrovert.
Ultimately, Dembling says, "The best thing introverts can do for themselves is to respect and honor their own introversion, treating it as something of value, something to showcase on dates, rather than feeling like they need to put on an extroverted dog-and-pony show." It turns out introverts have plenty to offer any relationship much more important than first-date chitchat.
If you appreciate your own quiet glow, other people will see it too."But introversion by definition isn't just about being social or antisocial; , describing someone with a strong ability to turn inward and concentrate on their own feelings.
By pausing and reflecting before speaking, there is time to process the real problem instead of getting angry and making unfair accusations.
In her excerpt, Dembling shares quotes from Lynne and David, who she spoke to about their respective marriages to extroverts.
We don't chitchat very well, but we love to converse, which makes for a good date." Since introverts can be slow to warm up to new people, Dembling suggests they often have luck building relationships off group activities (a class or book club) or shared locations (a favorite coffee shop).
As a result, Dembling says, they have the advantage of starting to develop a connection before they even have their first conversation — and those first conversations will be more substantive and flow more easily once they do speak.
Nevertheless, I thought I should try and attempt to offer up my advice once and for all - albeit, at the risk of repeating myself.