In this, I had the benefit of coming from a large extended family that is half conservative, half liberal and a mix of blue and white collar, poor to extremely wealthy. They might look the other way for a daughter, but for their son, no way, especially if we're talking marriage. I've never met her father because he's racist and refuses to accept the marriage. The father didn't even marry Japanese, my wife's mother is Korean!
So in his eyes, other Asians are fine, but anything else is too horrible to accept. Louie, but Asian Americans are not "people of color" in this world and cannot play the victim card, because Asia is one of the most racist places on Earth, and most, if not all, ignore all the racists they have in their family.
Unfortunately, this kind of gender racism will continue unless we see Asian men in leading romantic roles.
I often hear that "women want rich men" though as a middle class Caucasian woman I don't find that to be true.
If a guy treats me like garbage, affluence doesn't make up for it. I have been married to a Sri Lankan-American immigrant for 20 years.
But it's also true that Asian women have long been cast alongside white men in movies, television, and even the nightly news.
Just ask yourself, when was the last time you saw an Asian-American male anchor with a white female co-anchor?
Blogger, fashion photographer, and social critic Eliza Romero goes even further by calling out Asian women on this popular subtopic of the White Male/Asian Female (WM/AF) dynamic in her recent blog, To further complicate the problem, as online dating becomes more the norm than the exception, the image of the Asian man as emasculated, lacking confidence, nerdy, and asexual will be heightened.